Posted by: Ety W. | June 7, 2008

Influencing Others

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As leaders in the home, women have a profound influence on the other members of it. This can be for good or not. The Bible addresses this influence in the next word of the verse we’re studying:

To be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, subject to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be dishonored. Titus 2:5 (NASB)

Kind – Strong’s #18 – αγαθος – agathos – “good” (in any sense, often as noun), benefit, good, well. The Complete Word Study Dictionary adds, “Good, in respect to operation or influence on others, i.e., useful, beneficial, profitable. Of persons, benevolent, beneficent.”1

Agathos is found 102 times in the New Testament and is usually translated as “good.” It can refer to God, people, or things. Of these, I’ve tried to pick out cross references that will be useful to us in the context of Titus 2:5, being kind.

Our good kindness manifests itself in three, interrelated ways.

1. Our actions:

For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them. Eph. 2:10

So that you may walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, to please Him in all respects, bearing fruit in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God. Col. 1:10

But rather by means of good works, as befits women making a claim to godliness. 1 Tim 2:10

2. Our words:

(Now may our Lord Jesus Christ Himself and God our Father ….) comfort and strengthen your hearts in every good work and word. 2 Thess 2:(16)-17

Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, that it may give grace to those who hear. Eph. 4:29

3. Our conscience:

The good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth what is good; and the evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth what is evil; for his mouth speaks from that which fills his heart. Luke 6:45

And keep a good conscience so that in the thing in which you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ may be put to shame. 1 Peter 3:16

Why our conscience? Because if we are harboring anger, bitterness, guilt, wrong motive, etc., it will affect our attitude, which in turn affects our words and actions. As guardians of the home, it is imperative that we guard our own hearts and minds. Firstly to influence others toward godliness, but also because it sets an example for our children to follow.

What prevents us from being kind and having a good influence on others? There is a pretty practical list from 2 Timothy chapter 2:

(Don’t) wrangle about words, which is useless and leads to the ruin of the hearers. (Verse 14)

Avoid worldly and empty chatter, for it will lead to further ungodliness, and their talk will spread like gangrene. (Verses 16 – 17)

Refuse foolish and ignorant speculations, knowing that these produce quarrels, and the Lord’s bondservant must not be quarrelsome. (Verses 23 – 24)

One thing I noticed in our homeschool group was that some women would engage in these things when they thought their children weren’t listening. I learned to never underestimate what kids pick up! It always came out later in their children’s attitudes, if not words.

I learned to take this verse to heart:

Guard, through the Holy Spirit who dwells in us, the treasure which has been entrusted to you. 2 Tim. 1:14 (NASB)

As wives and mothers we have been entrusted with a great treasure: our families and our homes. May we never forget that we have a godly mandate to guard them not only with our actions, but with our words and attitudes as well.

1Spiros Zodhiates, The Complete Word Study Dictionary: New Testament (AMG Publishers, Chattanooga, 1992), p. 62


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